12 TIPS TO BUILD THE ASSET KNOWN AS FRIENDSHIP (2)

We will continue with the series on the tips on how to build the asset known as asset. I hope you enjoy the series one, this is the series two and the concluding part and will be awaiting your comments and other input you might think is also part of it.

v  BE FLEXIBLE: Build up the ability to change readily to meet new circumstances. Flexibility is always important for maintaining friendships. Don’t be rigid!

v  SUPPORT AND PRAISE YOUR FRIEND: In most of your friend’s doing and their achievements, always lend your support and praise him/her. Ignore their  failures and imperfection.

v  NEVER BETRAY A TRUST: Oxford dictionary definition for trust is “firm belief in someone or something without evidence or investigation”. Trust is widely known as the foundations of any relationships so don’t even try to violate this truss of friendship. It can even ruin the best of friendship ever known.

v  RESPECT YOUR FRIEND’S POINT OF VIEW: Different personalities can complement each other and even complement each other best. It isn’t always necessary to see eye to eye. Using a football team as an example, to have a formidable and best of all team all sorts of players are needed. Ranging from a good dribbler, good enforcer, good goalkeeper etc. So your difference in your personalities is no fuss.

v  CONTINUING ADDING POSITIVE VALUE TO HIS/HER LIFE: If a relationship isn’t  adding anything to one’s life, I guess it is time to call it quit. A lot of influence and value comes into play in any relationship and a positive from you as friend. It should be reciprocal anyway.

“Show me your friend and I will tell you who you are - Anonymous”

“When the character of a man is not clear to you, look at his friend - Rev. Y.F Folahanmi ”

v  ONE ON ONE CONTACT: Best friends need one on one contact to survive. Telephone calls and visits are vital for best friends to continue. In fact, probably the quickest way to end a friendship is to neglect it and severe contact. No matter how busy your life is, there are little ways to maintain such as sending e-mail frequently, chatting using the social media apps, engaging in some must do activities such as shopping together, attending programs and function together e.t.c

Friendship lifts hearts and lengthens lives. It is as old as humanity and as important as love or justice. Build one today, turn the liability ones to an asset.

“The antidote for fifty enemies is one friend - Aristotle”

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12 TIPS ON HOW TO BUILD AN ASSET CALLED FRIENDSHIP (1)

“Without friends no one would choose to live, though he had all other goods – Aristotle

One of my greatest motivation said by a respected writer Rev.Mrs Oluwafunmilayo Folahanmi in one of  her book goes thus “One of the greatest problems we face in our modern society is scarcity of good friends”  Isn’t that true? It is the truth.

                We all need someone we can be open with. No one makes it alone. People who need people are the luckiest people in the world. It is a simple fact that “Nobody is a lone ranger” even to the greatest of all known superheroes, they all have company before they achieve their feats.

Do you have a friend?

Are you friendly?

You don’t have a friend?

You are not friendly?

Are you in any relationship whatsoever?

If your answer to the above questions is rightly YES, I urge you to read on, value these tips, use this tips and act according to the tips.

Building friendship takes time. It requires self-disclosure, therefore any friendship has risks. Friendships are complicated but important parts of everybody’s life. But good friendships are worth the effort it takes to maintain them.

v  LISTENING AND ACKNOWLEDING: There is big difference in hearing and listening. Listening is an act of love which involves putting one’s agenda on hold and devotes oneself to knowing and caring for one’s friend in total submission and attention while talking. Friends are not looking for someone who can talk very impressively or cleverly or with great wit but rather looking for a very good listener.

“All people want is someone to listen – ELLIOT ”

v  TALKING: Talking is a primary building block of any relationship. It is an integral component of any relationship. Talking strengthened friendship and to convert a total stranger to a close friend, communication through talking is vital.

“When you see your buddy, you become a talkative – Yoruba Adage”

v  BE VULNERABLE: The truth is no one can always play out to be strong always. You have to be vulnerable sometimes in as much you have your strength and weakness. Let your friend know your strength likewise your weakness.

“If you want deep, lasting friendship, you cannot always be the strong one – John C. Maxwell”

 

v  DO SNAIL FALL: To snail fall is not a big term but rather gradually and slowly revealing yourself into a new friendship but when you are into it, stand firm and constant. It takes long time to grow an old friendship. Friendship has its good and bad times, there will time for disagreements and quarrels because of differences in background but determination, willingness and persistence will make it a worthwhile at the end of the day.

“Maintaining a friendship is crucial, best friends take time – Rev. Y.F Folahanmi”

v  DON’T USE HUMOUR TO PUT YOUR FRIENDS DOWN: It is true that in any relationships whatsoever, great humour is needed but never use humour to bring down people especially your friend.

v  DON’T RESENT YOUR FRIEND’S SUCCESS: Never let resentment comes into play with your friend’s success but rather strive to admire her achievements.

v  BE FLEXIBLE: Build up the ability to change readily to meet new circumstances. Flexibility is always important for maintaining friendships. Don’t be rigid!

To be continue..........

THE MOST DIFFICULT QUESTION TO ASK

I want my people to let us start on an enlightening journey with this inspired piece. This is one of greatest discovery I discover some time ago. Let me ask you this and am sure in your mind right now, the answer will be the regular one. Who are you? The next thing is “My name is bla bla bla…………” Am I right?

The realization to write on this topic dawn on me after watching Cormega (one of the NewYork underground rapper) DVD though after several thinking on my new post.

Discovering your true self, hmmm……the most important question of all is not mostly asked or tackled. Some ask what the purpose of humanity is while few people are asking the most important question of all “Who am I”. But what good are the answers to other questions if we don’t even know who we are, most of us are asleep.

We exist, but don’t even live

We see but don’t watch

We hear, but don’t listen

We speak empty words and eat without tasting. We rush on our arms and the grass beneath our feet. Why do we pass through life unaware of the greatest treasure of all? “Our True Self”

            Many of us were raised by imperfect parents in an imperfect atmosphere; we are exposed to criticism by others. First, we are criticized; then we criticized ourselves, we identified with the negative thoughts, we believed that the thoughts were us, later we started criticizing others in the vain hope that by dragging them down we would be uplifting ourselves, what a pity!

To discover your true self, you need to understand the works of things, thoughts and the thinkers. They stimulate our senses and cause thought to arise in our consciousness, thoughts are powerful tools. I am not the thoughts that flood my mind but I am the thinker that uses the thoughts to create, that’s our legacy. That’s what we were meant to be.

           

Unfortunately, many are still trapped in their thoughts; they don’t realize that they are the thinker and not the thought. They allow their thought to control them instead of them controlling their thoughts. This is a recipe for disaster because our thoughts are created by things that we do not count to and events that we have no control of, therefore, if we allow ourselves to drift in the tide of our thoughts, we will have no control over our destination. We must reclaim our true self, the thinker and analyses our thought as they appear. We must be critical thinkers, tossing aside every useless or negative thought while using every positive thought to bring us nearer to our full potential. All difficult things have their origin in that which is easy and great things in that which is small.

            So, ask yourself once again “Who am I”

Welcome Note

It is been said that Journey of a thousand years begins with a step but the truth is that many of us are afraid of taking the first step just because of the fear unknown and unseen. But who am I to blame you for not taking the step; so the only thing I can say is that you are lucky to be reading this post simply because power to journey on in life with little stress is about to be unleash from this blog on a regular basis.

Martin Luther Jnr once said "Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step "

Lemme ask you these few questions
i. Do you know life is full of question begging for an answer?
ii. Do you know that as much as their many problems in the world, their is also solution for it?
                             

Anyway, Life is only simple when one has access to right resources, information, personnel etc and on this blog, I promise to the best of capability to do just that. My underline value is that "Asset makes things possible, people makes things happen" so who say people can turn to asset too no matter how much of liability you have turn to or have, their will always be something for you to take you to the next level on this blog.

So, I say welcome to my blog!!!



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